I don't back down in an argument. I will especially argue you to the day I die about how my team is the greatest...even when they lose unexpectedly to everyone else but I knew they would lose. I love sports. I will tell you my daddy wanted a boy and I am the closest thing he has to one. I like hanging out with the boys. I can hold my own in about anything. I know how to change a tire....all four if need be. I know the different car companies and I could even change my own oil...if need be. I am a Strong Woman.
I won't take anyone's B/S. You want to be rude, I will put you in your place and then ignore you. Don't try to say hi to make it look good in front of my friends, family or husband. I know you never speak to me otherwise so don't fake it and think I'll say hi back. I won't and it's not me being rude, it's me keeping it real. I can shovel my own snow, throw down in a snowball fight or if need be, build a snowman or ice cave. I'm a Strong Woman.
Do I cry? Yes, when I am completely pissed off or completely happy with something. I love dancing and can feel in my body when I need to work on it to be stronger. I can hold my own playing 2 on 2 basketball and I will be on the winning team. I'm competitive. I can read a map. I am educated. I am doing things many people dream of and many people worked hard to let me do. I can vote. I don't need to have a man but I want one and love the men in my life, especially my daddy and hubby for letting me be me. If you aren't happy with me as a person, I know how to show you the door. I am a Strong Woman.
I love to dance. I love to lift weights...sometimes. I love to drink and can drink more than some men. I love to love and I love to have fun! I can program my computer, tv or any other electronic device but if I'm lazy I know how to be a girly girl. I moved a whole apartment with just my husband and we lifted everything...including the sofa, loveseat, bed, etc. I deal with a monthly friend for 4-7 days, my husband's friends and my friends. I can stay sane. I waited overnight and fought crowds for Black Friday. I will eventually give birth and have to push a 10 lb person out of me (well I hope they are 7 or 8 lbs and it will just seem like 10...I don't want to push a 10 lbs out.)
I am no frills, take no mess and know when to be serious and when to have lots of fun. I AM A STRONG WOMAN!
Friday, January 21, 2011
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Resolutions....Halfway through the month
So...my resolutions come out today. I started practicing before January but with my venting lately and then the scariest thing on Tuesday occurring, I had to wait. So today, you get to find out what my resolutions are.
I have been working on being healthier. That is my main resolution. It includes losing weight. According to everything I read and my Wii I am obese! I need to lose weight. My goal for myself...at least 50 pounds. It would at least get me back to my high school weight. Included with healthiness is eating better. More vegetables, less sugar. I barely use salt when cooking so that is not a problem. I love sweets though. Cakes, pies, brownies, alcohol....it's so good! I started back to my dance classes so that will help too! I love to dance and my classes are a challenge and lots of fun!
Something else to help me be healthier...better budgeting and financial preparations. I want to pay off my credit card this year, my car will definitely be paid off this year and find a job. If I can get a job, I can pay my student loans...even better, I can double the payments and hopefully pay it off sooner than later! I'd have $0 debt then! Once my credit card is paid off, I want to cancel it. I don't need the hassle of a yearly fee and I really do not need one. I want to use only a debit card so I have no debt! And with that, using more coupons. The more money I can save, the better!
Along with my resolution of healthiness I want to live! I want to be alive and live my life. I want to travel, go to museums and visit friends in fun places! I want to take a vacation someplace and have a great time. I want to live a life that I have no regrets and I enjoy...especially before I have children. I need to be out of debt before I can have a child...my rule!
My healthiness resolution sounds simple but includes so much! Yes there is the loss of weight, the eating better just like everyone else says. I am including things to better my credit and life and live with less stress. Whatever will make me happy and keep me stress free to be healthy...I want it!
I started counting my calories from what I eat and workout today! I will continue that and monitor my weight. Hopefully in 6 months, I will be down where I want to be or close to it. I will be making strides losing weight and I will be healthier. A year may seem long but it no time it will be December again.
Here is to my resolution of healthiness and here is to me doing good! Support me so I can continue to be in your life! I love you!
I have been working on being healthier. That is my main resolution. It includes losing weight. According to everything I read and my Wii I am obese! I need to lose weight. My goal for myself...at least 50 pounds. It would at least get me back to my high school weight. Included with healthiness is eating better. More vegetables, less sugar. I barely use salt when cooking so that is not a problem. I love sweets though. Cakes, pies, brownies, alcohol....it's so good! I started back to my dance classes so that will help too! I love to dance and my classes are a challenge and lots of fun!
Something else to help me be healthier...better budgeting and financial preparations. I want to pay off my credit card this year, my car will definitely be paid off this year and find a job. If I can get a job, I can pay my student loans...even better, I can double the payments and hopefully pay it off sooner than later! I'd have $0 debt then! Once my credit card is paid off, I want to cancel it. I don't need the hassle of a yearly fee and I really do not need one. I want to use only a debit card so I have no debt! And with that, using more coupons. The more money I can save, the better!
Along with my resolution of healthiness I want to live! I want to be alive and live my life. I want to travel, go to museums and visit friends in fun places! I want to take a vacation someplace and have a great time. I want to live a life that I have no regrets and I enjoy...especially before I have children. I need to be out of debt before I can have a child...my rule!
My healthiness resolution sounds simple but includes so much! Yes there is the loss of weight, the eating better just like everyone else says. I am including things to better my credit and life and live with less stress. Whatever will make me happy and keep me stress free to be healthy...I want it!
I started counting my calories from what I eat and workout today! I will continue that and monitor my weight. Hopefully in 6 months, I will be down where I want to be or close to it. I will be making strides losing weight and I will be healthier. A year may seem long but it no time it will be December again.
Here is to my resolution of healthiness and here is to me doing good! Support me so I can continue to be in your life! I love you!
Monday, January 10, 2011
You're a Liar and I Don't Respect You
So...if you've been following the roommate story you know all the drama. If not, read previous posts and catch yourself up! So yesterday, Kevin and I did laundry and as I was putting my clothes up he says that our roommate told him he tried to speak to me and I did not speak back. I said, "Oh what did he say?" Kevin stated he said he told you hi and you said hmmm. Now....why would I say that? Wouldn't I be as rude as him if I did that?
I would. And I'm not. Now, in reality, I said Hi. I asked Kevin why would I not say hi? And then I informed Kevin that maybe if the roommate figured out how to talk louder maybe he could hear louder and I'd respond louder. Kevin was not too happy and let me know he asked a question and it was a yes or no answer. It was not but okay. So when Kevin is here our roommate will leave his door open and if it's just me, He walks by, does not talk and goes straight into his room and shuts the door. Oh well. He is not my friend.
Back to him. Why did he lie? Maybe he thought I did not respond but couldn't he say hi again? His hi the first time barely sounded like he said hi, especially to me. It sounded like he said oh so I thought it was nice I said hi! Back to him and lying. Why not just tell Kevin you spoke and did not hear me say hi instead of saying you spoke and I did not speak back.
So with this...I have lost respect of our roommate. It started when he tried to say he is not rude enough and would not have a female over while I have guests in the house so we wouldn't hear him and his women. Don't make excuses. Just tell them to shut up while you are doing it in an apartment you share with people. As a married couple we don't make that much noise when he is here. Then he lied to Kevin and told him I did not speak.
That was it. Don't lie on me. I don't lie on you, don't lie on me! I was trying to get over his wussiness. (Is that a word?) I was trying to get over the fact he got pissed cause I told him to use a pillow cause I don't want to hear him and his partners in the bedroom. I did not even comment on the fact he has multiple partners. I was trying to get over how rude he is as a roommate by not telling people who come over often to say hi or to work on the noise levels.
Respect is a big thing to me. How can I respect you if you don't respect me?
I would. And I'm not. Now, in reality, I said Hi. I asked Kevin why would I not say hi? And then I informed Kevin that maybe if the roommate figured out how to talk louder maybe he could hear louder and I'd respond louder. Kevin was not too happy and let me know he asked a question and it was a yes or no answer. It was not but okay. So when Kevin is here our roommate will leave his door open and if it's just me, He walks by, does not talk and goes straight into his room and shuts the door. Oh well. He is not my friend.
Back to him. Why did he lie? Maybe he thought I did not respond but couldn't he say hi again? His hi the first time barely sounded like he said hi, especially to me. It sounded like he said oh so I thought it was nice I said hi! Back to him and lying. Why not just tell Kevin you spoke and did not hear me say hi instead of saying you spoke and I did not speak back.
So with this...I have lost respect of our roommate. It started when he tried to say he is not rude enough and would not have a female over while I have guests in the house so we wouldn't hear him and his women. Don't make excuses. Just tell them to shut up while you are doing it in an apartment you share with people. As a married couple we don't make that much noise when he is here. Then he lied to Kevin and told him I did not speak.
That was it. Don't lie on me. I don't lie on you, don't lie on me! I was trying to get over his wussiness. (Is that a word?) I was trying to get over the fact he got pissed cause I told him to use a pillow cause I don't want to hear him and his partners in the bedroom. I did not even comment on the fact he has multiple partners. I was trying to get over how rude he is as a roommate by not telling people who come over often to say hi or to work on the noise levels.
Respect is a big thing to me. How can I respect you if you don't respect me?
Friday, January 7, 2011
Update
So, today Kevin tells me we are going to go to dinner with our roommate to discuss things. Fine! But we did not have dinner with our roommate. Instead, our roommate made plans and decides to tell Kevin when Kevin asks about dinner. I am already annoyed with him and that is just rude. He should have told Kevin ahead of time. Regardless, no dinner but we had a talk and it was quick.
I told him he could screw the whole world, I just don't want to hear it. He asked if I heard his one friend, K? No I did not and he said see I had the tv and the fan on. Great 1 out of 3 is so wonderful, especially when she has been the quietest one the whole time and I only heard her once, when they thought we were gone. So, I explain what happens when I have friends over. He says he is not that rude. I never said it was rude but...my question is, If I go out with friends and we come back and he is already in the bedroom doing his thing then what? We don't want to hear the noise and he is gonna say it won't happen. How does he know? He can not see the future. It could happen.
Kevin says it is my tone of voice. I am a loud person. It is not my fault our roommate is a wuss. That is the nicest way to put it. He is a wuss and he can not handle someone telling him like it is. I am not going to change that. I say it like it is and if you are my roommate I am going to continue to say it like that. He is not a customer. He does not need it sugarcoated. If so, don't talk to me. Kevin says our roommate jumps on the defensive and I could handle things differently. I let him know, I don't want to hear the noise. Whether it is me here alone, me with friends or what, I don't want to hear the noise.
I told them both I will talk to the women if I hear them. I gave them both warning so if I hear the women, I will talk to them. I don't care if they like it or not, I will tell the women I feel they are being rude and disrespectful to me, I can hear it and they need to be quiet.
What do you think? Should I change how I want to convey this? Obviously me saying it nicely has not worked since the noise is still an issue and I have previously told him that. I want your opinion.
I told him he could screw the whole world, I just don't want to hear it. He asked if I heard his one friend, K? No I did not and he said see I had the tv and the fan on. Great 1 out of 3 is so wonderful, especially when she has been the quietest one the whole time and I only heard her once, when they thought we were gone. So, I explain what happens when I have friends over. He says he is not that rude. I never said it was rude but...my question is, If I go out with friends and we come back and he is already in the bedroom doing his thing then what? We don't want to hear the noise and he is gonna say it won't happen. How does he know? He can not see the future. It could happen.
Kevin says it is my tone of voice. I am a loud person. It is not my fault our roommate is a wuss. That is the nicest way to put it. He is a wuss and he can not handle someone telling him like it is. I am not going to change that. I say it like it is and if you are my roommate I am going to continue to say it like that. He is not a customer. He does not need it sugarcoated. If so, don't talk to me. Kevin says our roommate jumps on the defensive and I could handle things differently. I let him know, I don't want to hear the noise. Whether it is me here alone, me with friends or what, I don't want to hear the noise.
I told them both I will talk to the women if I hear them. I gave them both warning so if I hear the women, I will talk to them. I don't care if they like it or not, I will tell the women I feel they are being rude and disrespectful to me, I can hear it and they need to be quiet.
What do you think? Should I change how I want to convey this? Obviously me saying it nicely has not worked since the noise is still an issue and I have previously told him that. I want your opinion.
Thursday, January 6, 2011
It's Not His Fault
So...yesterday was venting. And today I will talk about something else.
Today is about the government. I have my opinions and beliefs and you have yours. This is all about my opinions and beliefs though. I like President Obama and he is trying to do some good things. But the government is who plays a part into what he can and can not do. Today he is signing legislation to get rid of the Joint Forces Command which means thousands will lose their job here (VA) and other places in the US. People keep saying look at how he is running the country.
Well it is not him. As much as I have disliked other President's (and they deserved it) Congress plays a big part. The Republicans do not want President Obama to make positive changes. And they keep talking about going back to the original constitution. That would mean he would be out and women and minorities would not be able to vote. That is part of the original constitution. Congress scares me. I wish I could be a congress person. I would fight for the people, the poor and the ones who need the help!
It is not President Obama though. He is trying and he keeps getting blocked at all parts thanks to Congress and his opponents. But the thing is...people need to not blame him for everything. I can't blame the other President's for what they tried to do that was good but got blocked. On the same aspect, people can not blame President Obama for what he is trying to do but is forced to do thanks to Congress.
It is not President Obama's fault that this country is the way it is. Blame it on the previous 8 years before he took office. We used to have a surplus and now it is a deficit. We have a President trying to be honest with us for once and people have an issue with that. He can't do anything right in most Americans' minds and they need to wake up, use common sense and see our current President is not to blame. It is not his fault.
Today is about the government. I have my opinions and beliefs and you have yours. This is all about my opinions and beliefs though. I like President Obama and he is trying to do some good things. But the government is who plays a part into what he can and can not do. Today he is signing legislation to get rid of the Joint Forces Command which means thousands will lose their job here (VA) and other places in the US. People keep saying look at how he is running the country.
Well it is not him. As much as I have disliked other President's (and they deserved it) Congress plays a big part. The Republicans do not want President Obama to make positive changes. And they keep talking about going back to the original constitution. That would mean he would be out and women and minorities would not be able to vote. That is part of the original constitution. Congress scares me. I wish I could be a congress person. I would fight for the people, the poor and the ones who need the help!
It is not President Obama though. He is trying and he keeps getting blocked at all parts thanks to Congress and his opponents. But the thing is...people need to not blame him for everything. I can't blame the other President's for what they tried to do that was good but got blocked. On the same aspect, people can not blame President Obama for what he is trying to do but is forced to do thanks to Congress.
It is not President Obama's fault that this country is the way it is. Blame it on the previous 8 years before he took office. We used to have a surplus and now it is a deficit. We have a President trying to be honest with us for once and people have an issue with that. He can't do anything right in most Americans' minds and they need to wake up, use common sense and see our current President is not to blame. It is not his fault.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Don't Even Know What to Call It
First, Happy New Year! Second, I need to vent and here is a little of it.
So...as you may know, I lost my job in May. Since then, I have been looking to no avail so far. To help with bills, Kevin and I got a roommate. I was not technically supposed to be here but a job interview gone awry is why I am. Well...back to the roommate thing. He moved in at the end of October. And can I say WOW! Before he moved in he told us not to have sex. Well...we are married. He for all purposes is not. (It's a long story that would take a few days to type out.) Little did I know our roommate is a whore. He is not a little whore but a huge one. He has had more than two females on more than one night and at one point he slept with 5 girls within 4 days!!
He never changes the sheets in between them and at times showers once every two days! Not even once a day!! His girls (they are not women or ladies and won't be called that until they learn to mature) are rude, disrespectful, have no common courtesy and are loud. When I say loud I mean I can hear them. I hear them screaming. If you clap your hands together I hear that noise too! When I say rude they come into the apartment I live in with Kevin and him and do not speak. They walk in front of the tv I watch, next to me, behind me, whatever and do not speak. They are rude! When I say disrespectful and no common courtesy I mean for themselves, our living area, and me as a roommate. They scream to the top of their lungs while on their way to having an orgasm. I have to hear it often and I am not happy. So...imagine when the one he "likes" comes over on New Years Eve right before the ball drops and after the ball drops, I get to listen to them for at least 20 minutes.
Happy New Year to me. So...I wanted to congratulate them on their performance later on New Years but they had left. When he comes back the next day I told him how loud they were. Kevin, laughs and tells him not to listen to me and my opinions. After our roommate has another girl come over and I hear them too I tell him to use a pillow. Kevin them tells him he thinks I try to listen because I like to listen. Umm...WTF? Are you kidding me? So imagine my surprise at the LACK of Support I have from my husband!
So I'm already pissed. And to top it off...then he tells me the one he "likes" is coming over to sleep. So I say "Make sure you use a pillow." And he gets an attitude and says, "I said just to sleep." Umm....how are you going to get an attitude with me. Your sleep and mine are obviously different like your talk and my talk are different. When I say talk I mean talk with my mouth not my private area. You say it and you don't mean talk with your mouth.
So now, I am super pissed. I have a husband with a lack of support for and of me. He takes sides with the whore roommate instead of me. So later on that night, Kevin and the whore roommate decide that the roommate will not have sex here. I don't care if he has sex or not but I want him to learn respect and common courtesy. So...now I am in silent mode. I don't want to talk to Kevin or the roommate and I don't need to. It's them against me and in reality, Kevin should be on my side fighting for our respect from the roommate instead of acting like I am the Big Bad Witch of the West.
It's simple as to what I want. I want to not hear the roommate have sex. I don't care if he has it or not in his room but I DO NOT WANT TO HEAR IT!! I want respect and common courtesy. I deserve it and if you live with me, it's the least you could do. I want my husband to support me instead of making me seem like a witch and saying things that upset and almost embarrass me.
Is that too hard to ask? I think not. Well, that is all. Happy New Year from my first blog of the year. Thanks for listening to me vent! I appreciate it and needed it.
So...as you may know, I lost my job in May. Since then, I have been looking to no avail so far. To help with bills, Kevin and I got a roommate. I was not technically supposed to be here but a job interview gone awry is why I am. Well...back to the roommate thing. He moved in at the end of October. And can I say WOW! Before he moved in he told us not to have sex. Well...we are married. He for all purposes is not. (It's a long story that would take a few days to type out.) Little did I know our roommate is a whore. He is not a little whore but a huge one. He has had more than two females on more than one night and at one point he slept with 5 girls within 4 days!!
He never changes the sheets in between them and at times showers once every two days! Not even once a day!! His girls (they are not women or ladies and won't be called that until they learn to mature) are rude, disrespectful, have no common courtesy and are loud. When I say loud I mean I can hear them. I hear them screaming. If you clap your hands together I hear that noise too! When I say rude they come into the apartment I live in with Kevin and him and do not speak. They walk in front of the tv I watch, next to me, behind me, whatever and do not speak. They are rude! When I say disrespectful and no common courtesy I mean for themselves, our living area, and me as a roommate. They scream to the top of their lungs while on their way to having an orgasm. I have to hear it often and I am not happy. So...imagine when the one he "likes" comes over on New Years Eve right before the ball drops and after the ball drops, I get to listen to them for at least 20 minutes.
Happy New Year to me. So...I wanted to congratulate them on their performance later on New Years but they had left. When he comes back the next day I told him how loud they were. Kevin, laughs and tells him not to listen to me and my opinions. After our roommate has another girl come over and I hear them too I tell him to use a pillow. Kevin them tells him he thinks I try to listen because I like to listen. Umm...WTF? Are you kidding me? So imagine my surprise at the LACK of Support I have from my husband!
So I'm already pissed. And to top it off...then he tells me the one he "likes" is coming over to sleep. So I say "Make sure you use a pillow." And he gets an attitude and says, "I said just to sleep." Umm....how are you going to get an attitude with me. Your sleep and mine are obviously different like your talk and my talk are different. When I say talk I mean talk with my mouth not my private area. You say it and you don't mean talk with your mouth.
So now, I am super pissed. I have a husband with a lack of support for and of me. He takes sides with the whore roommate instead of me. So later on that night, Kevin and the whore roommate decide that the roommate will not have sex here. I don't care if he has sex or not but I want him to learn respect and common courtesy. So...now I am in silent mode. I don't want to talk to Kevin or the roommate and I don't need to. It's them against me and in reality, Kevin should be on my side fighting for our respect from the roommate instead of acting like I am the Big Bad Witch of the West.
It's simple as to what I want. I want to not hear the roommate have sex. I don't care if he has it or not in his room but I DO NOT WANT TO HEAR IT!! I want respect and common courtesy. I deserve it and if you live with me, it's the least you could do. I want my husband to support me instead of making me seem like a witch and saying things that upset and almost embarrass me.
Is that too hard to ask? I think not. Well, that is all. Happy New Year from my first blog of the year. Thanks for listening to me vent! I appreciate it and needed it.
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