So, today Kevin tells me we are going to go to dinner with our roommate to discuss things. Fine! But we did not have dinner with our roommate. Instead, our roommate made plans and decides to tell Kevin when Kevin asks about dinner. I am already annoyed with him and that is just rude. He should have told Kevin ahead of time. Regardless, no dinner but we had a talk and it was quick.
I told him he could screw the whole world, I just don't want to hear it. He asked if I heard his one friend, K? No I did not and he said see I had the tv and the fan on. Great 1 out of 3 is so wonderful, especially when she has been the quietest one the whole time and I only heard her once, when they thought we were gone. So, I explain what happens when I have friends over. He says he is not that rude. I never said it was rude but...my question is, If I go out with friends and we come back and he is already in the bedroom doing his thing then what? We don't want to hear the noise and he is gonna say it won't happen. How does he know? He can not see the future. It could happen.
Kevin says it is my tone of voice. I am a loud person. It is not my fault our roommate is a wuss. That is the nicest way to put it. He is a wuss and he can not handle someone telling him like it is. I am not going to change that. I say it like it is and if you are my roommate I am going to continue to say it like that. He is not a customer. He does not need it sugarcoated. If so, don't talk to me. Kevin says our roommate jumps on the defensive and I could handle things differently. I let him know, I don't want to hear the noise. Whether it is me here alone, me with friends or what, I don't want to hear the noise.
I told them both I will talk to the women if I hear them. I gave them both warning so if I hear the women, I will talk to them. I don't care if they like it or not, I will tell the women I feel they are being rude and disrespectful to me, I can hear it and they need to be quiet.
What do you think? Should I change how I want to convey this? Obviously me saying it nicely has not worked since the noise is still an issue and I have previously told him that. I want your opinion.
I think you've got the right idea, Taneta. Is it more your place than the roomate's? What are the living arrangements?
ReplyDeleteLove ya!
I say it's equal although all of his stuff stays in his room. We have the bigger bedroom and all the stuff in the common areas is ours. I told him before he moved in he was welcome to the food in the fridge and cabinets but he eats out all the time and when he does not want to purchase food he goes through the fridge. I try to make him feel like it is his place too but he now stays in his bedroom unless Kevin is home.
ReplyDeleteI was fine with him except for the noise issue.